My review of Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D. and Gabor Mate, M.D.
Are you feeling increasingly disconnected from your pre-teen or teenaged child?
Does your child refuse to look you in the eye, or prefer to be alone when at home with you and your family?
Does your child ever say things like, “You can’t tell me what to do,” or “You’re not in charge of me”?
Does your child reject your authority and shy away from your company?
Does your child prefer to look like, think like, act like and be with their peers?
Welcome to parenting in the twenty-first century.
I read a lot of parenting books and while many capture my attention, very few actually keep me awake at night.
This one did: With Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, authors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate caution parents that our children’s pervasive orientation to their peers – at the expense and in some cases to the exclusion of parental relationships – is downright harmful to healthy growth and development.